Who am I? The key to understanding yourself

Who am i

We all have a moment when we’re not sure who we are anymore. The people we were closest to may have fed us lies about our identity, either putting us on a pedestal, or making us feel useless. Or perhaps you carry a different persona at work, in private, socially and with family. You feel stretched a million different ways to be what everyone else expects you to be. All the while, you have lost sight of yourself.

So how do you answer the question, ‘Who am I?’ When all your expectations, routines, loved ones and habits fade away, how do you define yourself?

When we know ourselves—truly, inexplicably understand what drives us, and who we are at our core, we are able to live more fulfilling lives. We are physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally healthier, and as a result all our relationships also become more complete.

A great place to start the journey to knowing yourself is learning about the Enneagram. We’ve previously discussed this personality theory in depth, but if you’re overwhelmed by numbers, characteristics or even the sense that you’re too lost to begin, this new infographic is for you.

We’ve listed each of the nine personality types below, along with the defining trait of each. The key is to place the phrase ‘I am the…’ at the beginning of each. So whether you resonate more with ‘I am the achiever,’ ‘I am the loyalist,’ ‘I am the challenger’ or ‘I am the peacemaker,’ you will find out which personality type you best relate to.

You won’t pinpoint your type immediately, and often we will see ourselves in a few different numbers before we identify our core. So select the ones that most sound like you, or who you think you are, and visit our Enneagram page for more details on your type. After reading through a couple of personalities, you’ll likely find yourself corresponding with one. You’ll think, ‘That’s how I communicate,’ or ‘I often feel this way’.

Look at the traits of your personality type, and see whether you are motivated by your head, heart or gut. Your fears, dreams, motivations and even relationships will become clearer when you understand this about yourself, and if you desire you can keep researching more information about how to be the healthiest version of this type possible.

Aside from our blogs about the Enneagram, we also highly recommend visiting The Enneagram Institute for more information about each personality type and a quiz.

What are you waiting for? Take a look at our list below, and see which personality type you resonate with. The journey to knowing yourself starts here.

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Type 1— The Perfectionist | Type 2 — The Helper | Type 3 — The Achiever

Type 4 — The Romantic | Type 5 — The Observer | Type 6 — The Loyalist |

Type 7 — The Optimist | Type 8 — The Challenger | Type 9— The Peacemaker

View our FREE Enneagram downloads here.

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The Enneagram in Pop Culture: Superheroes

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It’s fair to say we all love a good super hero story, especially when we resonate with the hero. Superman, Batman or Spider-Man—people have adored these characters for generations because even though they are extraordinary, they are characteristically human.

By looking at some of our favourite heroes and their personality types, we can learn more about ourselves. Take a look at our infographic below and see which Superhero you resonate with—perhaps they match your Enneagram type!

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Type One: The Protector
Captain America

Cap is a classic Type One on the Enneagram. He is a charismatic leader, motivated by justice and his internal morals and values. Superhero staples Superman and Super Woman are also Ones, highlighting the leadership qualities of this likeable type.

Type Two: The Helper
Hawk Eye

Twos are everything you could wish for in a friend, and Hawk Eye is no different. He is always on hand to help out and save the day, and like most Twos, is happy to step out of the limelight to get the job done. Falcon is another example of this type, who works tirelessly behind-the-scenes for the good of others.

Type Three: The Achiever
Green Arrow

A lone ranger, the Arrow is the quintessential example of a Three. He is resolute, independent, will stop at nothing to achieve his goals, and is a fierce and brave leader. Black Widow shows traits of a healthier Type Three, working with a team and leading by example to fulfil each mission.

Type Four: The Romantic
Iron Man

Every Four is radically different, and like Iron Man, will embrace their unique qualities. Iron Man’s quirky traits, his rich intellectual life, the need to stand out and to be known are quintessential of Fours. Black Panther’s regal nature also tips him towards this type, and Batman’s brooding, obsessive and emotional personality also places him in this category.

Type Five: The Analyst
Mister Fantastic

Reed Richards, or Mister Fantastic, doesn’t naturally fit the cliché category of ‘leader’, but like many Fives, he is full of surprises. Extremely cerebral, he observes the world around him before taking action. Mister Fantastic is more at home with facts and figures than humans, but his tight-knit team bring out the invaluable qualities of this Five, enabling Reed to come out of his shell.

Type Six: The Loyalist
The Flash

The Flash is an unexpected hero, and this is common for a Type Six. His natural wit mixed with an insatiable loyalty towards his loved-ones makes him a great friend. Like many Sixes, The Flash observes before acting with empathy, and when he squashes his own anxieties, he is a force to be reckoned with.

Type Seven: The Adventurer
Spider-Man

A thrill seeker with a running commentary that he’s not afraid to share with the world, Spider-Man is an ideal Type Seven. He relishes new opportunities, and is as smart as he is likeable. Thor is a more regal example of this type, distracting himself with new experiences to avoid his own inner turmoil. Ant Man is similar, being wildly capable and always up for a good time.

Type Eight: The Challenger
Wolverine

Never challenge a Type Eight, unless you’re ready for a fight. Wolverine will never back down, responding to his own perceptions of injustice and inner conflict. Like all Eights, Wolverine is a warrior, and he is willing to enter a fight—or even start one, when he wants something to change.

Type Nine: The Peacemaker
The Hulk

Bruce Banner is a contradiction. Like all Nines, he strives to stay calm and keep his own emotions in check. However, when he is threatened he turns into the Hulk, revealing the complex and ferocious emotions within Nines. The Hulk’s struggle between peace and chaos reveals the constant tension with Type Nines as they try to maintain their composure in every situation.

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The Enneagram, Addiction and Recovery

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We have long appreciated the personality theory of the Enneagram. It enables us to better understand one another, and means we can pin point what motivates people into a healthy and unhealthy state.

That begs the questions—could the Enneagram help us understand the path to addiction? And if so, perhaps it could assist people as they enter recovery.

This video interview from Enneagram Studies tackles these questions, intertwining a person's narrative or story with the Enneagram to provide insight into addictive behaviour.

In this video, TALK Editor Evangeline Welch interviews Renee Siegel for Enneagram Association in the Narrative Tradition. The interview identifies the typical patterns of addiction for each space—being what they refer to as Head types (Types 5-7), Gut types (Types 8-1) and Heart types (Types 2-4). They also delve into how each type behaves in addiction.

Focusing on the body as an energy system, the interview discusses what prompts different types to enter addictive behaviors, and what these often look like for each type, from eating disorders, gambling, workaholism, substance abuse, alcoholism or sexual acts.

Take a look at this video and let us know what it teaches you about the Enneagram’s role in addiction and recovery.

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The Enneagram In Popular Culture: Harry Potter

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We had such an amazing response to our Enneagram infographics that we decided to explore the personality theory even further. To give you further insight into types 1 to 9 and help you identify these personality types in your own life, we decided to delve into pop culture. Starting with the characters of Harry Potter, we hope that our Enneagram in Popular Culture series makes the functions of the Enneagram easier to understand for you.

So let’s take a look at the characters of Harry Potter and see what they can teach us about the differences within each type. Take a look at our infographic below, then scroll to the bottom of the page for our explanation of how these beloved characters display each personality type.

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Type 1: The Reformer

Aptly sitting in Type 1, Harry Potter and Professor Dumbledore perfectly sum up the heroic traits of The Reformer. Both are driven by a pursuit of justice, believe in treating people with dignity and are willing to sacrifice themselves for the greater good. Charismatic leaders, they are at their best when they learn to accept the help and affection of the people around them. These characters struggle when they internalise their emotions and resist the help of others, thus becoming the ‘martyr’.

Type 2: The Helper

The vastly different characters in Type 2 show us the differences that exist even within a single personality type. Dobby, Ginny Weasley and Professor McGonagall are all behind-the-scenes characters that will go to any length to help and heal their friends, yet they each show this in different ways.

Dobby finds his purpose in the approval of others, so we see him driven to extreme lengths to help Harry, often to his own detriment. Ginny is happy to sit back and allow others to take the lead, yet can tap into her 1 wing when she needs to fight. McGonagall has a harsher edge to her Type 2 due to the drive that comes from her 3 wing.

Type 3: The Achiever

There really is no greater Achiever than Hermione Granger­­–unless you consider Percy Weasley of course! These two characters show us the healthy and unhealthy ends of the personality type. While Hermione starts off feeling isolated and pushing people away due to her own competence, we see her develop into a healthy Type 3 who allows her friends to soften her independence, complimenting them with her knowledge and determination.

On the other hand, Percy chooses to stay in his unhealthy state, living with the belief that no one else can meet his extreme standards. Consequently he cuts off the people he loves the most.

Type 4: The Romantic

In fiction and in life, this type often holds the most variety in personality traits due to the unique nature of The Romantic. In Luna Lovegood we see a healthy Type 4. She is open and friendly, willing to hear the ideas of others and will accept them without changing her own values.

Alternatively, Draco Malfoy is so uncomfortable in his own skin that he compensates with his façade of being a bully and manipulator. Voldermort is also an unhealthy 4, but instead of recognising his own vulnerabilities he has chosen to get completely immersed in his own reality. Falling into an unhealthy 3 wing, he is an underhanded and destructive leader who lives with his own sense of truth and idealism.

Type 5: The Cynic

Severus Snape is the quintessential Type 5. He hoards knowledge, isolating himself and meticulously observing everything around him. Driven by the loyalty of his 6 wing, he comes out of his shell only when he is shown understanding and love. Alternatively, Filch is perfectly comfortable in his cynicism and he chooses to remain closed to the affection of everyone (except his cat). He relishes in his difference and power, tapping into his 4 wing when he communicates with people.

Type 6: The Loyalist

Type 6’s are the dark horses who often pop up unexpectedly with heroic acts. Both Neville Longbottom and Remus Lupin are driven by their loyalty to friends and the cause they believe in. Neville must overcome his own doubts, plucking up the courage to stand his own ground and truly embrace his own strength. Much older and more developed in his Type 6 idiosyncrasies, Lupin is more comfortable with his own abilities and convictions, using them to mentor Harry and his friends.

Type 7: The Adventurer

Wild and unhinged are two words that describe Sirius Black and the Weasley twins well. Type 7’s are driven by the pursuit of the unknown. They want to explore, push the boundaries of what is expected of them and question authority. In Sirius we see this in the form of a darker, more tortured soul who chooses to be reckless. Alternatively, Fred and George Weasley are still quite young and naive, using their spirit to rebel against the status quo and make their friends laugh.

Type 8: The Challenger

Mad Eye Moody is a hero who sacrifices himself for the good of others and Professor Umbridge is a villain who inflicts pain on people. So what do they have uncommon? They are both motivated by their need to challenge what they believe is wrong.

Mad Eye is abrasive and rough, never shying from a battle and adhering to his strict sense of what is right and wrong. Umbridge is also abrasive, but in a more subtle, passive-aggressive way. Completely stuck in her own warped morals, she relishes in the pain of others, bullying them in the belief that it will benefit the greater good.

Type 9: The Mediator

Both Ron Weasley and Hagrid try to keep their emotions at bay to avoid conflict. Ron reacts passive-aggressively when challenged because he hates the thought of confronting his own struggles, yet he is a loyal friend and uses humour to break tense situations.

Hagrid responds to conflict by going into denial, shutting down and refusing to acknowledge the trouble in and around him. When these characters are healthy they are some of most sincere friends you could find. When they are unhealthy, they will act recklessly and you might as well be talking to a brick wall.

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The Enneagram: Type 8 —The Protector

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This week we look at the last Enneagram personality type on our list, Type 8- The Protector. The Protector is not one to sink into the shadows, and they are compelled to not only speak up, but to take charge and implement justice. At their best they are captivating leaders, strong willed and empathetic to the people around them. When they are unhealthy, they can be perceived as bullies and act from an inner guilt that makes them domineering.

Take a look at our infographic below for more details about Type 8. Make sure you visit our Enneagram page to find out more about Types 1-9 and get our free downloads!

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The Enneagram: Type 7 —The Optimist

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They are the life of the party, the adventurer, and the first person to have a laugh. This week we look at Type 7 on the Enneagram, and highlight the people in our lives who always have a positive outlook and have grand ideas for the future. While they are thinkers, Type 7’s try to avoid pain and feelings of discomfort at all costs. They would much rather appreciate the good things in life and enjoy the company of others. At their best they are forward thinking and courageous. The Optimist is prone to missing facts and details, and when they are unhealthy, this means they can deny the deeper parts of their own lives, preferring to focus on the light.

Take a look at our new infographic for Type 7- The Optimist below, and keep an eye out for the final personality profile in our series, Type 8, coming soon!

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The Enneagram: Type 5 —The Observer

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Are you the silent, analytical friend? Perhaps you store facts in your head and can reel them off at a moments notice? Hey, you never know when you’re going to need them, right? Your family may call you ‘shy,’ ‘smart’ or ‘cerebral.’ Well, we have another identifier that you just might like: The Observer.

Type 5’s on the Enneagram often fly under the radar, only to come up with some of the most brilliant and unconventional ideas and discoveries of our time. In fact, they belong to the same personality type as Albert Einstein, Facebook’s Mark Zuckerberg, and J.K. Rowling, the author of Harry Potter.
The Observer has a rich inner life, but they can struggle to match their head with their heart, and it can take them awhile to truly open up and connect with others. Once they feel accepted though, they are generous, friendly and very, very thorough.

Take a look at our latest infographic on Type 5’s below, and visit our Enneagram page here for more downloads. Keep your eyes out for Type 7, coming soon!

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The Enneagram: Type 3 —The Achiever

Are you driven? Do you work hard to achieve your goals and achieve success? A Type 3 personality on the Enneagram will carry all these traits, and often be a charismatic and outward focused leader. You can find out more about Type 3’s in our infographic. Keep your eyes out for further instalments in our Enneagram series, and remember you can find our free downloads here.

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The Enneagram: Type 6 —The Loyalist

Sitting in the centre of the ‘thinking’ personality types, 6’s carry the observation skills and analytics of a 5, and the playfulness of a 7. Fiercely loyal, at their best they are questioners and reformers, caring for the people around them with diligence and love. Prone to becoming cynical, they will doubt their own abilities and seek approval from the people around them, before they truly learn to trust themselves.

Find out more about Type 6’s in the infographic below. You can visit our Enneagram page for more downloads on other personality types.

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The Enneagram: Type 4 —The Romantic

Are you artistic? Do have a certain flair for creativity and love being unique? Chances are you are a Type 4 on the Enneagram. Also known as The Romantic, Type 4’s are often identified by their intense emotions and depth of introspection. At their best they can communicate ideas and stories with passion and brilliance, at their worst they are egocentric and can be jealous.

You can find out more about Type 4’s in our infographic. Keep your eyes out for further instalments in our Enneagram series, and remember you can find our free downloads here.

The Enneagram: Type 4 – The Romantic

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