17 ways to become more successful

 

Success. We all want it, but how do we get it? Most people measure success in money and status—but success is about a lot more than this. It is about being physically, mentally and emotionally healthy, establishing good relationships, and living with a sense of fulfilment.

If you want success in life, this terrific infographic by entrepreneur MaryEllen Tribby gives some great hints on where to start: for instance, did you know that that by exercising a sense of gratitude, you will achieve more in life?  In the same way, people who are constantly critical and have a sense of entitlement will struggle to gain much traction in the work place—and their personal relationships won’t be very healthy either.

Professional supervision and mentoring is a great way to uncover your strengths and weaknesses so you can learn how to best harness them in life. Whether you want success in business, relationships or health, a solid supervisor will show you how to set achievable goals, observe your your life holistically and encourage you to embrace these tips.

Take a look at Mary Ellen’s 17 indicators of successful people below, and then browse through the traits of people who are unsuccessful. Where do you fall on the scale?


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How to stress less and find happiness

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It’s hard to get through a typical day without experiencing stress, right? From money concerns to worries about work, 7 out of 10 of us feel extremely anxious or stressed each day.

When we’re stressed, we experience physical fatigue and tend to take out our concerns on others. We see it damage relationships and create tension in ordinary situations. So how do we beat stress? The fact 85% of what we’re stressed about never happens is a great stat to comfort us when we’re agitated, but it’s not always easy to let stress ‘roll of our back’.

The great news is that there are some simple ways to reduce stress in our every-day life. Talking to a friend or colleague, seeing a counsellor—even putting a pot plant on your desk can all help to re-establish your own well-being. Add some exercise, meditation or fun activities into your schedule and you’ll also begin to feel less stressed.

Take a look at this infographic by Happify and see what methods you can use to reduce stress in your life. Let us know your favourite relaxation techniques in the comments!

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16 Charts That Will Help You To Chill Out

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At some point stress and tension build up in all of us, fatiguing our body and making it extra difficult to get out of bed. When we feel like this, the last thing we want is someone telling us to ‘chill out’, because it’s not easy to rest when we have so much to do. However, there are some small steps you can take to slowly bring peace back into your day.

We were thrilled when Buzzfeed featured our infographic, ‘76 Stress Relievers’ in their blog post, ‘16 Diagrams That Will Help You Chill The F*** Out’. They include some useful charts on brewing tea, having a spa and even doodling —all great techniques for bringing some peace back into your day.

Head over to the blog post here and scroll through the charts (You’ll find Watersedge at #15), and tell us what technique you’re going to try next time you feel stressed!

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Who am I? The key to understanding yourself

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We all have a moment when we’re not sure who we are anymore. The people we were closest to may have fed us lies about our identity, either putting us on a pedestal, or making us feel useless. Or perhaps you carry a different persona at work, in private, socially and with family. You feel stretched a million different ways to be what everyone else expects you to be. All the while, you have lost sight of yourself.

So how do you answer the question, ‘Who am I?’ When all your expectations, routines, loved ones and habits fade away, how do you define yourself?

When we know ourselves—truly, inexplicably understand what drives us, and who we are at our core, we are able to live more fulfilling lives. We are physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally healthier, and as a result all our relationships also become more complete.

A great place to start the journey to knowing yourself is learning about the Enneagram. We’ve previously discussed this personality theory in depth, but if you’re overwhelmed by numbers, characteristics or even the sense that you’re too lost to begin, this new infographic is for you.

We’ve listed each of the nine personality types below, along with the defining trait of each. The key is to place the phrase ‘I am the…’ at the beginning of each. So whether you resonate more with ‘I am the achiever,’ ‘I am the loyalist,’ ‘I am the challenger’ or ‘I am the peacemaker,’ you will find out which personality type you best relate to.

You won’t pinpoint your type immediately, and often we will see ourselves in a few different numbers before we identify our core. So select the ones that most sound like you, or who you think you are, and visit our Enneagram page for more details on your type. After reading through a couple of personalities, you’ll likely find yourself corresponding with one. You’ll think, ‘That’s how I communicate,’ or ‘I often feel this way’.

Look at the traits of your personality type, and see whether you are motivated by your head, heart or gut. Your fears, dreams, motivations and even relationships will become clearer when you understand this about yourself, and if you desire you can keep researching more information about how to be the healthiest version of this type possible.

Aside from our blogs about the Enneagram, we also highly recommend visiting The Enneagram Institute for more information about each personality type and a quiz.

What are you waiting for? Take a look at our list below, and see which personality type you resonate with. The journey to knowing yourself starts here.

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Find out more information on:

Type 1— The Perfectionist | Type 2 — The Helper | Type 3 — The Achiever

Type 4 — The Romantic | Type 5 — The Observer | Type 6 — The Loyalist |

Type 7 — The Optimist | Type 8 — The Challenger | Type 9— The Peacemaker

View our FREE Enneagram downloads here.

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How to Speak the Same Love Language as Your Partner

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Have you ever done the dishes for your significant other, only to have them shrug it off and complain that you never see each other? Or perhaps your spouse constantly craves physical affection, when you’d much rather sit down and just talk? In these circumstances, it can often feel like you speak a different language to your partner. Couple relationships can hang by a thread, because both people feel misunderstood and under-valued by one another.

Would you like to get on the same page? Understand what language your partner speaks when it comes to love? Then this infographic by Tommie Media on the 5 Love Languages can help you out. Based on the premise that every human gives and receives love in five different ways, the primary way you show affection may be drastically different you’re your partner.

Follow the graph below to find out how you best receive and recognise love. It could be Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Quality Time or Gifts. Ask your partner to do it to, and you will find out how to best express love to each other. For instance, you may be a gifts person, but they may crave physical touch. So, instead of buying them gifts to show affection, you are now able to show them physical affection and strengthen your relationship of a deeper level. Knowing each other’s Love Language will revolutionise your relationship and help you to reconnect. So go ahead, and see what your Love Language is!

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Social Media’s Growing Impact On Relationships

10 years ago we didn't know Facebook from Tinder, and online dating was relatively new. Yet as social media has developed, so has the methods in which we build relationships with one another. In this infographic by Juliana Rae, we are given new insight into the affect social media has had on every part of our relationships. From meeting one another to marriage, breaking up and divorce- social media plays a key role in our lives now.

How has social media changed dating?

The fact Facebook asks for our relationship status means we are automatically categorised as ‘single’ ‘married’ ‘in a relationship’ or the classic ‘it’s complicated.’ This makes it easier for the 54 million singles in the USA to find out the suitability of a partner. In fact, 5.5 million use online dating services. And before you knock it, research shows that courtship is shorter for these couples.

In many ways, social media seems to be having a positive impact on relationships. It has allowed people to meet to keep in contact, but what are the negative consequences of this new phenomenon?

Think about the public response you receive when you post your relationship status on Facebook. The more ‘likes’ you get, the more you feel rewarded for achieving such a status. Your relationship which was once private has now been turned into a public spectacle. And how do you react when your partner’s ex, or even a close friend, comments on their photos? Do you feel jealous, or are you assured of your partner’s commitment?

Once upon a time it was ugly to break up by text message. Today, it is even uglier to break up in the public forum of social media. This infographic says that 25% of people surveyed found out a relationship had ended on Facebook. In this, we see that the old fashioned practice of communicating has been replaced with a public declaration that ultimately hurts everyone involved.

When we share our lives on social media, our personal details are documented for the world to see. When it comes to relationships, this means we will always somewhat be connected to one another. Whether a break up occurs due to the secretive infidelity of someone documented on social media, or a lawyer uses a web trail in divorce proceedings, we can see that for every benefit that comes with social media, there is also a negative.

How do you and your partner use social media? Do you use it as an excuse to avoid conflict or publicly air your grievances? Perhaps you feel safer getting to know someone over a screen before meeting them? Whatever role social media plays in your relationships, come to a mutual understanding with your partner about what information you will share and who with. Make a conscious decision to keep your private moments private, and if you want to make full use of the positive benefits of social media in finding a partner, do so with wisdom and caution. Allow social media to play a part in your relationship, but don’t let it dictate your wellbeing. In the end, the classic relationship where two people do life together off screen is far healthier than one shared with the internet for all to see.

 

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