10 conversation starters for awkward holiday parties


December is prime time for awkward conversations. There are work break ups, and family reunions, catch-ups with friends and community gatherings—all which require a certain amount of social prowess.

As someone with social anxiety, these events exhaust me. Having to navigate awkward questions about my relationship status and side step political banter means I don’t have a lot to give when it comes to starting conversations.

Come January 1, lots of us feel this way. So to help you along the way, we’ve come up with 10 great conversation starters for you. Pull one out next time you’re standing next to an introvert or when your second cousin once removed is seated next to you on Christmas Day.

All going well, this will create a conversation deep enough to go beyond weather talk, but light enough to avoid the unmentionables—politics, religion and having kids.

  1. What do you do with yourself when you’re not working?

This is a fail-safe way to find out about a person’s general interests. Maybe they’ve just started Cross Fit, are taking the kids to basketball practice, or belong to a religious community. You may even have something in common!

  1. What are your plans for the New Year?

This general open-ended question gives the other person permission to talk about whatever they want—holidays, new goals in the work place, their hope to start a family, or their plans to travel.

  1. Have you seen any good movies lately?

Short of having someone say, “I’m not really a movie person,” this is bound to start a conversation about the definitive ranking of Star Wars movies, great rom-coms, historical masterpieces or your favourite superhero. 

  1. Tell me about your work.

Some people can go on about their work for ages, so this opens up a lengthy conversation that will also identify what their vocation is and how they entered the industry. Steer clear of this if you’ve heard someone is searching for work or has been unable to go due to health reasons. If they’re searching, just say, “Oh, great! What are you looking for?”

  1. Do you have any animals?

Because who DOESN’T want to talk about their fur babies, and want to show strangers the collection of adorable photos they have of them on their phone?

  1. What are your kids interested in?

Obviously this is only useful if you’re speaking to a parent, but children are a great talking point—especially if you’re a relative. You’ll hear about their school work, their extra curricular activities, their health and their favourite TV show. Some parents will be more comfortable talking about their kids than themselves!

  1. Did you see [insert name of TV show/movie here]?

If you’re talking to someone in a similar age bracket, there’s a good chance they at least know about the TV shows and movies you’re into. If not, choose a generic movie or TV event few people miss—like Carols in the Domain, the New Years Countdown or a long-awaited miniseries about an iconic person. 

  1. What are you reading/watching at the moment?

The perfect question for avid readers or Netflix fans—this gives people the opportunity to talk about what they love and why. You’re giving them an outlet for their obsession. Trust me, they love it.

  1. Take a look at this video!

Find a hilarious video on Facebook and share it with your long-suffering compatriot. Animal videos are always worthwhile, although you can find some holiday-themed gems as well.

  1. What surprised you about this year?

This is an out of the box question that is sure to get the wheels turning in their head. While they’re considering their answer, come up with your own. This will lengthen the conversation and give you a chance to really get to know someone else.

Do you feel anxiety around the holiday season? Would you like support as you navigate difficult relationships or awkward conversations? Here’s what you need to do: contact Colleen on 0434 337 245 or Duncan on 0434 331 243 for a FREE 10-minute phone consultation on how we can best help you, or press book now to book on our online diary.

Five Tips for Safe Partying

Five-Tips-for-Safe-PartyingThe holiday season is brimming with social gatherings and parties. It’s important you are able to let your hair down and enjoy this, but things can get out of hand. Here are five tips to embrace the festivities of the season while still taking care of yourself .

  1. Plan your transport

Instead of winging it, plan your transport beforehand. Decide whether you have a dependable designated driver, will receive a lift from a friend or will catch a taxi. If the party is a long distance away, consider booking accommodation there. And if your plans fall through, you are tired or are in an unfit condition to drive, don’t be afraid to call a friend and ask for a lift. Remember it’s better to be safe than sorry!

  1. Eat before and during the party

By eating, you fill yourself up and are able to absorb any alcohol you drink slowly. Eating can also decrease how much you drink and will keep you in a safer and more stable condition during the festivities.

  1. Space out your drinks

Begin the night with a non-alcoholic drink, and between each alcoholic beverage drink a glass of water or soft drink. Distract yourself by taking part in activities like playing pool or dancing and you will also find yourself drinking less.

  1. Watch your drinks

Keeping your hand over the top of your drink or keeping it in sight at all times will protect your drink from being topped up, spiked or drugged. Make sure you finish your drink before you allow it to be topped up so you can monitor how much alcohol you consume, and if someone buys you a drink make sure you know the alcohol content beforehand.

  1. Set your boundaries

Come into the festivities with an idea of how much alcohol you will drink. Be firm in saying, “no” if you feel pressured, and decide whether you will partake in drinking games. If you still want to take part in these games, choose something with a low to no alcohol content.

This blog was put together using the Australian Drug Foundation Fact Sheet on Safe Partying.

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The Watersedge “Go 30 Days Alcohol Free” campaign launches on January 1!

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