60+ Relationship Tips for Intimacy

We all want intimacy with our partner, but at times it can be hard to cultivate. In this new blog from Australian Counselling, 20 therapists, including our own Colleen Morris, share their tips for creating intimacy with your partner.

From simple, minute details, to larger than life ideas, this list will give you the inspiration you need to get your relationship back on track. How do you establish intimacy with your partner? Read the blog here and see if you’re strategy makes the list.

Here is Colleen’s intimacy tips:

Be intentional about connecting every day

Intimacy can be eroded one day at a time, simply by the failure to intentionally look into your partner’s eyes and take a genuine interest in their day. Over time, intimacy is extinguished by a couple’s failure to connect and ‘catch up’ with each other because we are no longer familiar with the other’s external and, more importantly, internal life. So make it your intention to reserve a time each day when you catch up with your partner’s day – over coffee, walking the dog or even driving to and from work together. Whatever works—DO IT. I recommend you take a look at some of the apps available such as ‘Questions in a Box’ and ‘Ice Breakers for Couples’ that provide questions that promote further conversation.

Back each other up

Do you know the couple who, when talking about their partner to you, actually ‘put them down,’ or the person who talks to their partner with sarcasm both publicly and privately? That sort of behaviour destroys intimacy swiftly! So be your partner’s best friend and ‘back them up’ in public as well as in private.

Have conversations about what ‘turns your partner on’

 It is common for couples to neglect these conversations, either assuming that you already know what your partner likes or being completely egocentric and focusing entirely on ‘what’s good for me.’ Many couples have difficulty navigating these conversations so that resentment grows where intimacy once thrived. If this is your experience, check out some of the apps developed for couples.