5 Ways an Extrovert Can Thrive

5 Ways an Extrovert Can Thrive

Extroverts often get a hard wrap. They are exuberant and outgoing, and when this is not managed it can leave other people (especially introverts!) feeling bulldozed and drained off all their energy. That being said, extroverts are movers and shakers; the life of the party and the welcoming arm to the new person who just walked through the door. As much as introverts don’t like to admit it (myself included), we need you. We need you to fill in the gaps of awkward conversation and to ask questions. We need you to invite us along to social events, so we have the opportunity to do life with other people. And we need you as friends, because as awesome as introverts are, we can’t manage other extroverts on our own.

When an extrovert is healthy, they are some of the truest and most honest friends you’ll come across. But unlike the introvert, their unhealthy tendencies can be harder to spot. Struggles, depleted energy and overwhelming emotion will be covered by their trademark exuberance, and unlike the introvert who will get lost in the thought process of the situation, an extrovert will become consumed in the rollercoaster of behaviour and noise that leads them to burn out.

As an extrovert it’s essential you take care of yourself. Here are 5 tips that will help you thrive.

  1. Have boundaries

When you’re the life of the party, people often assume that you’ll always be available and willing to help out. They will expect you to attend events or ask you to step into a leadership position because they know you can get the job done. True as that may be, it’s essential you know when to say “no.” While an extrovert gets their energy from being with people, they can still become exhausted, so prioritise the activities most important to you.

  1. Practice self awareness

Extroverts can leave a bad taste in the mouth of others when they lack self awareness. In this, they will over step the boundaries of conversation, volume (that’s a big one!), physical interaction and tone of voice. Remember, you don’t always come off the way you mean too, so observe people’s body language as you talk to them. Notice if they shut down and stop talking, if they shy away from touch, or if they make a quick exit. You don’t have to change your natural demeanour, but to cultivate healthy relationships you do need to practice a respect and awareness for the people around you.

  1. Have life giving relationships

As an extrovert, you have the tendency to give until there’s no energy left in the tank. In order to gain energy from other people, you need to make sure your relationships are life giving. Spend quality time with people who you can relax with, who understand you and who leave you feeling empowered. Some people drain us and others leave us feeling like we’re on top of the world, focus on the latter.

  1. Make time to switch off

While ‘quiet time’ can be pegged as an introverted activity, it is still essential for the wellbeing of an extrovert. Granted, you won’t need this as much as an introvert, but there are times when you will just need to be alone. Sit, write down your thoughts and make sense of what is going on around you, go for a jog or watch a movie. Don’t be afraid of the quiet, embrace it. After all, you can always go and spend time with friends after, right?

  1. Love yourself

An extrovert will often find their self-worth in the praise of others. People’s responses to you, their willingness to invite you to social events and even the level of attention they give you can all play a role in your self-esteem. Remember that while you crave time with people, they don’t dictate your self-worth. You can’t be “too extroverted” and you can’t be too quiet. You are just you, and as you take care of yourself you will find that the important people will be naturally drawn to you for who you are, not for what you can give to them.

Are you an extrovert? Do you want to thrive? Then here’s what you need to do: contact Colleen on 0434 337 245  for a FREE 10-minute phone consultation on how she can best help you, or press book now to book on the online diary.

5 Tips to Manage Personal Relationships in the Workplace

5-Tips-to-Manage-Personal-Relationships-in-the-WorkplaceWhen we enter the workforce, we never want to be ‘that' person: the one who got that job through their connection with the boss, or the employee who already has a romantic relationship with someone on staff. In these times, it can be hard to work with a clean slate. People can undermine your work, and meanwhile you are constantly trying to balance your personal and professional life.

Have you ever asked yourself what the line between work and your personal life is? Social Media like Facebook has blurred this line more than ever, and we all must face the moment a colleague or (gasp) our boss requests us on Facebook. It means our personal photos and thoughts are now available to our colleagues, and elements of our work life, once clearly separate from our home life, are on display for everyone to see. So how do you manage personal relationships in the workplace and still bring your A game while keeping healthy relationships with your loved ones?

  1. Discuss your boundaries
    When entering a workplace where you already know the boss, a colleague or where you develop a romantic relationship with a colleague, it is imperative you have a clear discussion about your expectations of each other and your boundaries. This means discussing how and when you spend time together, how you will respond to personal questions regarding the relationship, and potentially even your physical boundaries in the workplace. For instance, in many workplaces it would be highly inappropriate to kiss your spouse goodbye, yet it would be perfectly acceptable to sit next to each other at lunch.
  2. Choose how you disclose information
    When you enter into a relationship with a colleague, it can be challenging to know if, how and when to let your workmates know. This will vary for individuals, but when you feel your relationship is serious enough to warrant it affecting the workplace consider approaching your boss or a trusted senior advisor about how your personal dynamics have changed and what they expect of you within this.
  3. Be careful with Social Media
    If you don't want your boss to know what you did on the weekend, don't add them on Facebook. In fact, make the decision to keep your work life separate on social media and never address personal issues in the public forum. Remember, once something is posted your workplace has the ability to find it, which could result in any number of consequences, so be careful before you hit that ‘post' button! If you are friendly with your colleagues but still want to retain some sense of privacy, perhaps consider changing the privacy settings on your social media so you can determine who can see what.
  4. Keep yourself accountable
    Having a personal relationship with someone on staff is great as it provides you with extra support and comradery in day to day life. That being said, it is easy for all of us to be blinded by our previous experiences with them and show prejudice either for or against them. When making decisions in the workplace that impact your loved one, take a moment to ask yourself if your judgment is being clouded in anyway before addressing the issue.
  5. Leave work at work
    When you leave the work place, you must decide to leave all your concerns there. In order to keep your personal relationship healthy, you need to determine what you can actually talk about outside of work hours that are work related. There is a difference between venting and disclosing private information that your loved one shouldn’t know, and together you need to make sure you don't allow the stress or tension that developed during the day to inhibit your personal relationship. If you have any unresolved issues or tension from the day, discuss it as soon as you get home, or choose to leave it for the next day when you are back at work. Remember, when you are home this person is your loved one, not your colleague. That beings said, be mindful of the impact anything you say could have on your loved one and consider seeking outside support if you find that work related stress is negatively impacting your relationship.

If you want to grow professionally and in your relationships, experience wellness and reach toward your full relational potential, then here’s what you need to do: contact me on 0434 337 245  for a FREE 10-minute phone consultation on how I can best help you or press book now to book on my online diary.