Here are 6 principles to heal your marriage after the affair. They are tough but absolutely necessary for repair, healing and recovery.
1. Be honest with yourself.
2. Apologize to your partner.
3. Be honest with your partner.
4. Work at building your partner's trust.
5. Disconnect from that other person.
If you are the one who has backed away, the other person may choose to pursue you. Whilst this is flattering to the ego, it is a temptation that is easy to give in to and will continue to destabilise your marriage. Do what ever you have to do to put an end to the affair completely – change your email address, block your Facebook account, change your phone number.
If the other person works alongside you, talk with your partner about your options as a couple: changing jobs, relocating. These are huge life choices that sound extreme. However, if your marriage is the priority, I urge you to consider these options. The other person may still pursue you if they choose, but you are saying to your partner, “I will do whatever it takes to save our marriage” and sending out a clear message to the other person that you have made a choice for your marriage.
6. Seek professional help.
If you want to heal, recover and grow in your couple relationship, experience wellness and reach toward your full couple potential then here’s what you need to do contact me on 0434 337 245 for a FREE 10-minute phone consultation on how I can best help you or you can make an appointment to see Colleen by booking online now.