Most of us learn about forgiveness in the context of our family and/or religion. As a child you learn that if you hurt your sibling, you will be told to show remorse and ‘say sorry'. If you did this, you understood that to mean that you were forgiven by your sibling and life could go on. If, on the other hand, you were the offended one, you learnt that when offered an apology, you were expected to forgive the offender. What was that like for you I wonder?
Are you a forgiving person?
Forgiveness is better for:
- your physical health – Forgiveness has the affect of lowering your blood pressure, adding to the longevity of your life.
- your mental health – When you forgive another you will feel less stressed and anxious, allowing you to sleep better.
- your relational health – You remain connected and engaged with others.
Forgiveness is undoubtedly a healthier choice, physically, mentally and socially however I can still struggle to let go of my hurt and act in forgiveness. I have come to the conclusion that forgiveness is a bit like building a long bridge over a deep chasm. It is a process that involves personal risk and much courage. Let me explain.
In that process, the person who stands to change the most is you. One of the reasons we struggle to forgive others is because we have not forgiven ourselves our personal failures and shortcomings. It causes less discomfit to judge someone else for their wrongdoing than it is to tolerate your own self-hatred. When you deliberately act with kindness and care towards others, you learn to be kinder and more forgiving towards yourself.
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