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Relationship Repair That Works

May 18, 2013 By Colleen Morris Leave a Comment

What makes a ‘successful couple relationship’ is a question that every couple wants the answer to. Is it the absence of conflict that sets them apart? Is it the way the way a couple handles conflict? Is it their particular approach to relationship repair?

For many years Dr John Gottman has studied, what he coins, ‘the repair attempt’. In this video, Dr. John Gottman describes how the “masters” of relationships make repairing their relationship after an argument a priority.  But what makes some repair attempts succeed while others fail? Have a listen. You might be surprised!

 

 

A successful repair attempt doesn’t rely on a ‘smooth’ or ‘clever’ delivery. What it does rely upon is  how good and kind you are to your partner on a daily basis, what Dr Gottman calls ‘ emotional money’.  When your partner experiences you as supportive, caring and safe within the relationship, they are more likely to respond positively to your repair attempt. It comes back to the underlying couple connection you have. Never minimize the impact of just being together, appreciating each others presence and those daily acts of kindness. These experiences build connection and create a ‘rich’ emotional bank account.

How much ’emotional money’ do you have in the bank? Perhaps this is your opportunity to begin to rebuild your emotional relationship bank account.

Have you ever wondered why your partner never agrees with your version of what happened?
Go to the following link to find out more:
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/05/16/why-the-two-of-you-will-never-agree-on-what-happened/

Do you want to repair your couple relationship?  Contact Colleen on 0434 337 245 or Duncan on 0434 331 243 for a FREE 10 minute consultation on how we can best help you or book online now.

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Filed Under: Marriage and Couple Relationships Tagged With: relationship communication, relationship conflict, relationship problems, relationship repair

About Colleen Morris

Colleen is a counsellor and family therapist who founded Watersedge Counselling. To read more of her work or book an appointment click here.

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