How I Personally Managed Transition

Talking with Counsellor, Mentor and Business Coach Duncan Morris

Duncan-MorrisIf you are a keen observer of nature, you will know that transition is part of the natural order of things. We call the transition between day and night ‘twilight'; the transition between summer and winter we call ‘autumn' or ‘fall'; the transition between being a child and being an adult we term ‘adolescence'. Transition is the movement between the old and the new, sometimes swift but more frequently transition is slow and even painful. It is for this reason that we can experience transitions as stressful and disorientating. When you are experiencing a transition in your life or even considering a transition, it is easy to doubt the decision you made to leave the ‘old'. Hearing the experience of others who have made significant transitions and how they have coped and adjusted is necessary for encouragement and motivation. In this blog, Jessica Morris interviews Counsellor, Mentor and Business Coach Duncan Morris about the transition he is presently experiencing, how he copes with the inevitable changes and the positive outcomes for his health and wellbeing.

JM: Having made the decision to transfer from management to counselling, can you tell us what motivated you to make the change?

DM: Having been in senior management for 10 years, the last four in the public service, I became aware that my personal values were not only being challenged, but my work/life balance was nil. I was either at work, or thinking about work constantly. In addition, my role in management had grown enormously- 10 fold in fact. I realised my job was too big for me. After struggling with this for some time, I was faced with the fact that I needed to assess my career and lifestyle choices.

JM: Can you tell us about the risks involved in making this transition?

DM: When considering the need to be true to my values and gain a better work/life balance for the sake of my physical, emotional and mental health, and my family relationships, I asked myself what I really wanted to do with my life. I loved working with people, and initially trained as a social worker with the aim of being a counsellor. However following graduation, I walked into a management position and continued to climb the ladder of success. Now after so many years working in this sector I was needing to assess the risks to me leaving a well paid secure position and the status that has become important to me.

Risks I considered were how my reputation and identity would be impacted in the professional world that I had been a part of for so long. Financially, I was on a good salary and did not have to worry about expenses, yet the idea of transitioning from this position would mean there would be literally no guarantee of an income in the future. The means by which we would now pay for expenses and costs like our mortgage would be up in the air, and I was unsure as to how my family would react to my decision to go from a secure and well paid position to an uncertain future. I had no certainty of actually having clients and to top it all off, it had become evident that I was pretty burnt out. What if I didn’t have the physical capacity to start and sustain my own private practice due to this?

JM: In spite of these huge, and often life changing risks, there were also benefits involved in this change. Can you tell us about them?

DM: I would be able to set my own workload and therefore better care for myself physically, emotionally and mentally. I would no longer have to be involved in the politics and bureaucracy of the workplace in a large organisation. I would be able to work one on one with people; this has really energised me in this transition. In addition I would have opportunity to be more positive and proactive about my wellbeing and family relationships. I would be able to sustain them in a healthy manner. Ultimately, these benefits far outweighed the risks involved in moving from a secure job in senior management to that of a private practitioner.

JM: What has changed since you made the transition?

DM: I made the move, and I am more relaxed around home and the house now and my health is improving. In many ways, the roles have been reversed in our household and my wife has become the major bread winner. She has been supporting me financially and I’ve been making a conscious effort to do things around the house that I took for granted previously. I’ve handed the finances back to my wife as well, and she is far stricter than I was. However, this is very much needed due to our new financial circumstances. I am much more aware of money I spend because we now need to be able to survive as a family on our new budget. In terms of family relationships, I’ve had the opportunity to spend more time with my daughters, and this has allowed me to cultivate a deeper relationship with them. They often tell me that I am happier now and have more energy. A special privilege has been that I have been able to support my mother in a more intentional manner as her husband and my father died earlier this year. I simply would not have had the time or the energy had I remained in my previous managerial role.

JM: Lastly, after making this difficult transition yourself, what advice would you have for others going through, or considering a similar change?

DM: If you, like me, have been considering making a transition in your life, I encourage you to be true to yourself. Know yourself and your needs so you can be healthy and happy. Ascertain what your personal values are in the work environment and in life, and determine what is important to you as a person and in your work life. Create a support network around you; not just in your family relationships but also in the form of professional support. I meet with two different mentors who work in the business sector and they have helped me to work through the transition.

Any transition is difficult, and the changing circumstances of the past 4 months have been challenging for both myself and my family. My safety net is that I have the skills and abilities to get a financially secure job should it be required. To date that has not been required, as a family we are doing well with what we have. I am getting healthier and am enjoying life far more than I used to. Ultimately, I get to do what I enjoy the most: work one on one with people. In doing this, I am fulfilling the intentions I had when entering this industry 20 years ago.

Are you undergoing transition in your life? Do you need extra support as you navigate personal and professional challenges? Call Duncan on 0434 331 243 for a FREE 10 minute consultation on your specific needs. If you are ready to make an appointment, you can do so by clicking on the orange icon on this page BOOK NOW and follow the prompts. 

Discovering the Purpose for Your Life

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Life is constantly changing; very few things remain the same. Most people will have multiple jobs, and live in different houses, different states and even countries in this day of globalisation. Relationships change and even if you stay with the same person, there are changes in the dynamics of that relationship as each of you becomes more aware of differences and challenges. People change through growth and development, and this impacts stability of life.

With change comes challenge. What direction do I take? Should I leave this job for another? Do I remain in this relationship or move on? How do I manage this situation?

Having to make these difficult life changing decisions can result in a rise of stress levels and displays of emotion such as sadness, disappointment, anger and confusion. Sometimes making a decision becomes too hard, and as a consequence an individual can remain in an unhealthy and unhappy place in their life. When this occurs, a person is paralysed by ambiguity and confusion so they are unable to make a decision. It may be issues beyond our control that are causing significant pain and anguish, and we feel powerless to change.

Having an independent professional to listen and discuss your stressors in life with has proven to be an instrumental aspect of accepting change and gaining the courage to make a decision to move forward. As a professional who has faced similar challenges, I can assist you in finding answers to life changing questions.

Questions such as:

                What is important to me?

                What values in life do I adhere to and hold precious?

                Do I have a purpose in life? If so, what is it? If not, can I develop a purpose?

                If my life is a picture, what will it look like in the future?

                How do I get there?

                What is my motivation for change?

By pondering these questions, you can be provided clarity, understanding and direction in these challenging and difficult times. As a professional counsellor, mentor and coach, I can assist you in finding the answers to these questions and help to discover, or rediscover, the purpose for your life.

Are you undergoing change in your life? Do you need extra support as you navigate personal and professional challenges? Call Duncan on 0434 331 243 for a FREE 10 minute consultation on your specific needs. If you are ready to make an appointment, you can do so by clicking on the orange icon on this page BOOK NOW and follow the prompts. 

4 tips to cultivate and enhance your daily life and well being in 2014

cultivate-and-enhance-your-daily-lifeRecently I had the very LIFEGIVING experience of visiting Disney World in Florida.

I am using the word LIFEGIVING very deliberately, because my experience was just that!

For the 2 days that I had the opportunity to explore some of the parks, I could not stop grinning such was my happiness. Being at Disney World was a catalyst for releasing my inner child: I enthusiastically hugged Goofy, the Chipmunks, one or two Disney Princesses; I jumped up and down with delight as I watched the street parades and waved to Mickey Mouse; I sang along with gusto to the beautiful orchestral music that permeated every corner of the parks; I gasped with awe as I witnessed the glorious firework display, and I experienced enormous pleasure at the unfailing willingness and enthusiastic service of every Disney employee I encountered over the two days. If I could bottle my Disney experience and bring it home, I would have the instant ‘pick me up' for every mediocre day forever after! It was a LIFEGIVING experience.

What do I mean by LIFEGIVING? I initially encountered this term through an interest in the study of Spiritual Formation. I discovered that the term LIFEGIVING was a helpful way to recognise good spirit – that which had a calming, nurturing, grounding, centering and positive impact on my well-being. Anything that is LIFEGIVING grows, nourishes and enhances life in me. Conversely, when something depletes, minimises, drains and de-centers, it is a bad spirit and life destroying.

Whilst I cannot bring Disney home in a bottle, I can still encounter that which is LIFEGIVING in my ongoing everyday experience because I have developed the habit of noticing the things in my daily experience that enhance life and well-being in me.

Here are 4 tips to cultivate and enhance your daily life and well-being in 2014:

1. Using each of your 5 senses, take notice of the things in your everyday life that soothe, calm, centre, ground and/or bring you pleasure.
sight – a favourite object, photo or scene
smell – a flower, herb, tree, candle or particular object that calms or holds meaning for you
touch- a smoothe stone, a silk scarf, a beloved pet or a warm bubble bath
sound – the sea, rain on your roof, a favourite piece of music,
taste – a drink of hot chocolate, a glass of red wine at the end of a long day, the first cup of tea for the day, your favourite sweet

2. Take 5-10 minutes each day to journal the things that you notice are LIFEGIVING and reflect on what it is that makes it so.
Is it the colour, the size, the reminder of a pleasurable memory for instance?
Your answers will provide further insight into what it is that is particularly LIFEGIVING for you.

3. Practice DOING MORE of the things that are LIFEGIVING.
Makes sense doesn't it? I have noticed that inspite of what I know about what I NEED for well being, old habits die hard and self sabotage is my brains natural de-fault position! Making a new habit requires PRACTICE. By daily practice and journaling your discoveries you reinforce that which is LIFEGIVING.
RITUALS are a very powerful way of providing order and rhythm to your daily life. It may be as simple as going for a daily walk early morning, lighting a candle each evening or saying a prayer upon waking and going to bed.

4. Make your home/workplace environment LIFEGIVING by using decor that calms and centres you.
Be aware that your mood may well be enhanced by a certain colour or sounds.
Do you function better with more light? Do you prefer a window? Is there a particular plant or flower you would like to bring indoors? Do you require a quiet place where you can relax and find calm?
Consider how the environment you are in, impacts your mood and sense of well-being. You may well have to think creatively about how you can make the environment you are in, more LIFEGIVING for you.
Make a point of removing the things that de-energize you physically, mentally or emotionally.

By following these 4 tips you will begin to develop your own daily experience of noticing that which is LIFEGIVING for you. The benefits will include an increasing sense of calm, inner peace, and centering as you invite more of what is ‘good spirit' into your daily experience.

If you would like to explore this theme more fully within a group setting, Watersedgecounselling will be conducting a Women's Wellbeing Workshop, facilitated by Colleen Morris, on Saturday, February 22nd at 9.30am – 4.30pm, level 1, 24 Moorabool Street, Geelong. For more information, go to www.watersedgecounselling.com/events or call Colleen on 0434337245

If you would like a personal consultation on how to cultivate and enhance your daily life and well being, you can call Colleen for a FREE 10 minute consultation on 0434 337 245 or if you would like to make an appointment to see Colleen, go to BOOK NOW and you will be able to access Watersedgecounselling's online appointment diary.

7 Ways to Get More Done In Your Day

7 Ways to Get More DoneThe end of one year and the beginning of another and it is likely that you are feeling ‘frazzled’. The 21st century lifestyle is a juggling act for most of us. Balancing our couple relationship, family, work, community groups and also have time for yourself is a tall order. However the  Christmas/New Year break lends itself to an opportunity for you to review how you spend your time and consider some simple ideas that can reduce your stress and increase your productivity. Sounds good doesn’t it! So here are:

7 Ways to Get More Done in Your Day

1. Look After Yourself First
All those things you know you should do for yourself but somehow neglect because other things get in the way: personal exercise, healthy eating, hanging out with positive people and feeding your mind with material that builds you up.
When you take the time to care for yourself, you will actually feel better about yourself, more energized and motivated which all equals increased productivity.

2. Clean out the Clutter
I have noticed that where an individual complains of feeling a lack of control, their environment generally reflects the same. Typically by years end, your office and/or home environment has accumulated paperwork, books, old equipment and other unnecessary items. Now is the time to do a de-clutter and prepare the space for the year ahead. I promise you that it will save time, energy and money – you will recover what has gone missing, be able to find things in the future and feel less stress.

3. Use The Right Tools
How long have you been putting up with an office chair with poor back support? (That one is a message for me!) Is your lighting adequate? Does all your office/household equipment work properly? How often have you heard someone ‘blow their stack’ because of that office printer that never works! It’s time to do a stocktake and invest in the right equipment for your physical and mental health sake!

4. Use a Diary or Digital Organiser
Recording appointments, things to do and goals is absolutely necessary to feel in control of your busy life. Use a diary or digital organiser that you can carry with you. This is the most effective way to get things done, plan your work and your life.

5. Learn to say “No”
Do you have trouble saying “no”? You are not alone. Howeveryou pay a heavy cost when you say “yes” to those additional requests that well-meaning friends/colleagues ask of you. So make it a personal goal to be more self-assertive and say “no”. If this feels uncomfortable, try responding with “Let me think about itand I’ll get back to you”. This gives you the opportunity to decide whether it is something you truly want to do as opposed to doing it to please someone.

6. Do What You Do The Best and Delegate the Rest
This is something I am working on for the New Year. What do you spend time doing that is not your forte or you really cannot afford to spend your precious time on? If you are in a financial position to do it, consider investing in a gardener, that house cleaner you have been talking about or that administration assistant. It’s worth investing a few extra dollars if you have more free time to do what you want to.

7. Avoid Unnecessary Meetings
Before agreeing to attend a meeting, check if you need to be there. Maybe a phone call or email will be just as effective.

By following these simple yet very effective ideas you will have more control over your work and your life, experience less stress and be more productive. All of these factors affect your general well-being and confidence.

If you are experiencing stress and would like further support to gain control of your life, experience growth, wellness and reach your potential you can contact Colleen on 0434337245 or go to her online diary at www.watersedgecounselling.com

 

6 Tips For Transitioning Into Marriage

6 Tips for transtioning Into Marriage

Introducing Guest Blogger, Anna Kosmanovski

Anna is a gifted and passionate writer and a delightful young woman. As a newly-wed, Anna is eminently qualified to write on the subject of transitioning into  married life. If you would like to read more of her work you will find it at http://www.annakosmanovski.com

 

Having just recently got married, my husband and I joke that we are “marriage babies”, happily waddling around together in our diapers. We have our own experience on how to do married life but considering we’ve just celebrated the three month mark, I feel understandably inadequate to write on that.

 

What I can give my thoughts on, however, is the transition process from being single to being engaged, and then from being engaged to being married.

 

1. Get pre-marriage counselling

We did a five week course with two other couples. This included a dazzling array of desserts and complete privacy as a couple for the group conversation time. We went over common issues like household chores – who does what – as well as gave us insight into important issues we hadn’t even thought of yet!
For us, this represented a conversation, or series of ongoing conversations, on how we were planning, and wanting, to do life together after the wedding.

Looking back, this counselling was so important to our relationship.

It helped us both recognise how we naturally respond to situations and what our personality types were. Personally, I realised that I tended to naturally bottle some things up and needed to work on my confrontational skills. I also realised my husband-to-be was unable to read my mind. Even just recognizing these things is helpful and gives you consideration as you go into marriage, as well as areas to “work on.”

 

2. Talk about expectations

We naturally talked about our hopes and dreams but it was very useful to also directly discuss what each other’s individual expectations were for our marriage and then our collective vision for this. Doing so brought about compromise … which they say marriage is all about. So doing this exercise – and working out what’s non-negotiable and what needs to be compromised – you can meet in the middle.

Talking about this can involve expectations big and small, with no topic big or small.

For instance, would one spouse expect the other spouse to do most of the cleaning? Do you both expect to share the cooking and cleaning? What kind of expectations do you have in parenting? Even talking about how you would both like to do the holiday season with children – if you are planning on having them – is a valuable expectation to discuss.

For us, even talking about how we envisioned Christmas to look in our household was a point of differing expectations with one issue. I am so glad we found this out before we were married – and worked out a compromise – otherwise one of us may have been surprised!

Relating to having children down the track, does one spouse expect the other spouse to be a stay-at-home parent, get back to work after six months or do whatever felt right to them? These are good questions to ponder for your future together, even if the future seems very distant!

 

3. Make a plan for finances

As well as the pre-marriage counseling, we also did a three week budgeting course. We were not yet engaged at this stage but both knew that it would be a good thing individually and as a couple.

We spent late nights working on Excel spreadsheets and figuring out the structure of our finances, as well as discussing our thoughts on giving and saving. The reward for that comes into play after you are married. It saves you from having arguments when both parties naturally want to structure finances the way they’ve always done it when that may not simply work now life has changed from one to two.

So much tension in a relationship can revolve around money: how to use it, how you save it, etc. Some couples like to pay themselves a “pocket money” into their personal account and have a main joint transaction and savings account. Others like to have just the joint account. Some spouses need tight organisation in this area to feel at ease while others are just happy to go with the flow. Whatever your thoughts are on money and marriage, make sure you are both at peace with this.

 

4. Do your homework – learn from other people

We all need people to look up to and learn from; people to inspire us. In getting married, it’s no different. We need to learn from those who have strong relationships. These couples could be in their mid twenties or late sixties.

We gratefully accepted dinner dates, afternoon teas and the opportunity to meet with other couples we respected. We found these couples happy to speak into our lives and give advice and experiences and answer questions. We observed how these couples communicated, noticed how they valued their spouse in public and heard wisdom and tips on marriage. Simply speaking, we were lucky enough to see how other people, “did life together” and learnt from them.

In this way, we saw practically what we aspired to, which helped build our own unique relationship, as well as vision for it. This was a privilege to see healthy marriages and be inspired for our own relationship.

 

5.  Put up boundaries to protect your relationship

This is a really important one and will look different for every couple. It’s an exercise in both protection and safeguarding your relationship. What was good, helpful and supportive from family and friends when you were single may have the opposite effect when you are married.
For us, we put our faith in God first, then each other, then family. By identifying our priorities, we cut through some ambiguities which could have potentially lead to boundaries being crossed.

So much heartache comes from unhealthy relationships and lack of respect about boundary issues. The television show, Everyone Loves Raymond, paints a hilarious picture of this. When we were dating, my husband joked that he watched that show with the intention of learning “not to do” in our marriage.

We all need to be in community with our family and friends, but in a healthy way. Particularly in your first year of marriage, you need lots of space to well, just be with each other and be able to make mistakes and learn together how life is best for you both. Plus, it takes time to simply get used to being married and even living together for those who did not live together before being married.

Use the transition period to find out your boundary issues. Your spouses, too. Counselling will help with this. Consider if there are any minor – or major – relationship adjustments which need to happen.

If you can help it, this is not the time to move in with your inlaws or even live in a share house with other people. You are forming your own household, physically speaking, and need the freedom to do this just you too. Emotionally speaking, some – or perhaps more – relationships with friends and family need to change. The relationship is still there, it just needs to be tinkered slightly.

 

6. Learn – and celebrate – your differences

The thing is, opposites attract. You can’t tell when you’re dating and engaged because it’s so exciting but there’s a good chance your partner is opposite to you in a lot of ways!

You might be surprised to learn that your spouse is naturally introverted. Or perhaps you’re an introvert who has been pretending to be an extrovert during the dating/engagement period. You get married, life settles down to normalcy and your secret is revealed: you don’t want to have dinner parties every weekend! Or, maybe it’s the opposite!
Whatever your natural tendencies, it’s helpful to be aware of this and share it with your spouse or spouse to be!

This will give you both more understanding about each other, not to mention yourselves. Are you energized by people or energized by the solace of reading a book by yourself? By finding out how you are naturally wired, you can save time and tension in your marriage. Again, the compromise word comes into play! I’ll add another one too: respect. There is no “right” or “wrong” way to lean towards. Extrovert spouses can learn from more introvert partners and introverts are challenged by their more outgoing partners. Celebrate your differences and respect how the other person is naturally made, although don’t put them in a box either. People change and grow all the time: expect that will happen too!

 

7. It’s not about the wedding, it’s about what comes after

Some people thinks weddings are spelt “stress” not “wedding”, and with good reason too. Anyone who has been closely involved – parent, bridesmaid, groom, bride, sister, etc. – in a wedding knows exactly how stressful weddings CAN be. Table setting planning, costs involved, not being able to invite everyone you would like, civil wars within extended families: the list goes on!
Sadly, some couples have even separated during the engagement process because of the sheer stress of wedding planning, interference from others and other wedding related issues alone.

Two new families, two sets of values, a whole lot of differing expectations coming together and all of a sudden you have a wedding which is bigger than Ben Hur and nowhere near as noble.

In the busyness of this time, it’s a good idea for you and your spouse to take a step back and ask yourselves – are you even happy with how things are going ahead?

We needed to do this. Somewhere down the track, I realised that we had fallen into the trap of planning a wedding to please other people, the expense being ourselves (and our bank accounts.)

Tip: if you find yourselves constantly “joking” about how much easier it would be if you just eloped, you need to revisit your wedding planning with a very good tip which my husband’s aunty gave me.

It’s quite catchy, really: your day, your way!

If you need assistance to to navigate your present transition experience or need support as you experience your own transition contact Colleen on 0434 337 245 or go to www.watersedgecounselling.com to book an appointment.

 

 

Transitions: The Secret Of Change

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The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old but on building the new. (Socrates)

Put simply, look ahead instead of looking back if you want to change.

As I have thought about this, a Bible story that I was taught during my early years attending Sunday School came to mind. It was a story that put fear in my heart telling of a couple who lived in the city of Sodom, infamous for some of its resident’s depraved behaviour. The couple had been instructed by God to flee from the city without looking back. Failure to do so, God warned, would be grievous. I can only guess what Lot’s wife was experiencing: curiosity, confusion and uncertainty, feelings of loss, doubt? The consequence of her action was swift and dramatic: she turned to a pillar of salt there in the desert.

The story reminds me of the real challenges a person faces when confronted with any transition in their life. Some transitions such as developmental changes, workplace changes, or the loss of a loved one are forced upon you. Other transitions are a consequence of the choices you have made: living together as a committed couple, marriage, moving location, a change in employment, recovery from an addiction are just a few examples. Irrespective of the nature of the transition you are going through, it is a stressful and emotionally challenging time. The story reminds me how easily you can become ‘stuck’ and even feel like you are ‘losing yourself’ during transition because nothing is familiar or predictable anymore. The ground is shifting beneath you and the natural desire to turn back and look at the old  familiar ways can be a temptation difficult to resist. It is a human tendency to go back to the comfort of what is familiar, even if it is doing me harm; to avoid the discomfort of the unknown and unfamiliar.

Trusting the process of change; permanent change takes a long time and tests our tolerance and patience. Transition is not a linear movement but a movement back and forward, testing out new behaviours, falling back on the old, learning by trial and error.

Fighting the old reinforces the old

  • You are confronted by ‘demons’ of the past
  • You experience an ongoing struggle to resist temptation
  • You become physically and emotionally exhausted
  • You are more vulnerable to the very thing you are fighting against (‘I feel like giving up’; ‘It’s too hard’; ‘Why am I even bothering?’)

Building the new inspires hope and purpose

  •  Your back is to the old
  •  You are thinking about possibilities and dreams
  •  You are focused on finding solutions
  •  You are focusing on the goal

Whatever transition you are presently going through, be it as an individual, a couple or as a member of a community, remember Socrates advice and focus your energy on building the new.

If you need assistance to  focus your energy on the new, would like to know more about how to navigate your present transition experience or need support as you experience your own transition contact Colleen on 0434 337 245 or go to www.watersedgecounselling.com to book an appointment.

Warning: Australia Day Celebrations may be a cover up

The year is 1970. I am in Grade 6, standing by my wooden desk at Rathdowne Street Primary School (now Carlton Gardens) reciting the poem penned by Dorothea Mackellar ‘My Country'. I have never forgotten the words, so burnt into my memory by constant repetition:

 I love a sunburnt country
A land of sweeping plains
Of rugged mountain ranges
Of droughts and flooding rains.
I love her far horizons,
I love her jewel-sea
Her beauty and her terror
The wide brown land for me.
 

Her words capture the wildness, beauty and unpredictability of the Australian landscape. As Australians we stand proudly on the world stage, envied by many for the rich resource of land, space and freedom that we so often  take for granted.

For people living under tyranny and corruption, Australians are a ‘lucky people'. Time after time, people risk their lives and the lives of their children, to cross dangerous seas in unseaworthy vessels for the sake of freedom,  safety and asylum.  It is for this same reason that generations of  courageous Aussies have left her shores to fight for and protect the freedom Australians enjoy.

Group of people holding an Australian flagJanuary 26 marks Australia's day of independence as a nation and we will celebrate both on a national and individual level. Of all people's on the earth, Australians ought to be among the happiest. We look happy as we celebrate and enjoy our freedom however my experience of people suggests that looks can be deceiving. Do you wear happiness like a mask , covering up the misery that imprisons you?

You may live in a free country but do you have inner freedom or are you living under the tyranny of some self-imposed prison? Your prison is as unique you are: a job, a relationship, an addiction, a bad habit, an attitude, an outdated belief, unrealistic expectation,…………………….(you can fill in the dots). You feel confined, restricted, suffocating and unhappy.

So often I hear people tell me why they can't escape from their prison. You will blame, accuse and even justify why you live in this prison but will you take responsibility for your freedom? People will take enormous risks and draw upon a deep courage to attain the freedom that Australia offers. The choice to overcome your inner confinement is yours and yours alone to make. If you have the courage to make the choice for freedom, there are resources to help you.

Alcoholics Anonymous have a prayer that every member repeats every day to support  their journey towards freedom. Called The Serenity Prayer, the words are:

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

If you want to change and enjoy  inner freedom, I encourage you to seek out a professional counsellor who is skilled to help facilitate and support your transition to freedom. I wish you growth and wellness on your journey of change and inner freedom.

 
If you want to grow, experience wellness and reach toward your full potential then here’s what you need to do contact me on 0434 337 245 for a FREE 10-minute phone consultation on how I can best help you.