How Paying Attention to your Emotional Energy Can Improve your Relationships

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Did you know the heart has an electromagnetic field that goes way beyond our physical body? In this infographic by The Heartmath Institute, we learn about how the heart and brain work together, affecting our emotional and physical health.

The Heartmath Institute talk about ‘emotional coherence’, which is the practice of focusing our positive emotion on the heart. This in turn sends positive signals to the brain and our entire magnetic field, and explains why couples, parents and children are so emotionally sensitive and frequently reactive to one another.

When you practice emotional coherence, it has positive implications on your personal health and wellbeing, your close relationships and ultimately the world around you. Take a look at the infographic below and find out how emotionally healthy your heart is.

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Two Little Words That Can Change Your Life

Two-Little-Words-That-Can-Change-Your-LifeHave you ever found your mind preoccupied by the myriad of tasks that have piled up on your desk, even before you get to work each day? As your mind recites each task, counting them off rapidly, your breathing quickens, your pulse starts to accelerate and you may even feel an overwhelming feeling of dread. By the time you arrive at the workplace, you already feel a significant depletion of energy as you wonder how you can possibly complete the day’s work. Is this your experience?

What if you could approach the same day differently; relaxed, with energy, optimism and openness? ‘Is that even possible?’ you wonder.

The key to approaching your day from the latter perspective lies in the discipline of staying in the present moment, or mindfulness. For most of us, as soon as our head gets off the pillow in the morning, the mind begins to race as it rehearses not just the immediate tasks, but also the tasks for the next 24 hours and possibly beyond. Our mind has this ‘crazy’ habit of talking to us constantly and repeatedly about the tasks we anticipate, our fears and anxieties as to what might happen including worst case scenarios, past regrets and hurts; and all at once!

Neither does our mind necessarily ‘respect’ what we are experiencing in the immediate moment. Begin to pay attention to where your mind goes throughout the day’s events and observe the effect your mind’s ‘dialogue’ has on your physical, mental and emotional state. To assist you, I suggest that you start a daily journal, recording the things you notice. Try to find a suitable time to sit down each day and reflect on the day that has passed. Your record might include

  • The thoughts you noticed
  • What you were doing at the time
  • How you were feeling physically, mentally and emotionally

Whilst we associate our ‘mind’ with the brain, in reality our mind is not limited to the brain, but is what we term an ‘embodied’ experience, embracing not only our physical, mental and emotional being but also our relational self.

As you learn to notice your mind wandering into its own ‘far away land’, you can start to bring it back to the present with these two words:

JUST NOW

When you are sitting in a lecture and you notice your mind rehearsing all the work you still have to complete, say to yourself:

“JUST NOW.”

When your children are excitedly telling you about something that happened at school and you notice that your mind is recalling an earlier conversation you had with your boss, say to yourself:

“JUST NOW.”

When your mind is filling you with dread due to a difficult phone call you need to make, take a deep breath and say to yourself:

“JUST NOW.”

These two words are your mind’s reminder that it is JUST NOW  that I need to give attention to. As you practice this, you will discover over time your mind will learn to refocus quicker and you will feel more calm, relaxed and energised in each day.

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How to Keep Good Mental Health

How-to-Keep-Good-Mental-HealthI really like Wednesdays. I would go so far as to say that Wednesdays are good for my mental health. “Why Wednesdays?” you may ask. Why not Fridays or Saturdays? After all, Wednesday is ‘hump day’- just half way through the working week for the majority of people. It is a wishy-washy sort of day where I have survived Monday and Tuesday, but I still have Thursday and Friday to go. I anticipate Wednesday’s with enthusiasm because it is my ‘day off’ from my office. It represents a whole 8 hours of time to do as I choose. Ahh, I love Wednesdays.

Just saying that invites a deep sigh; it relaxes the tension in my shoulders and chest. Even as I think about it, I am feeling the effects of this emotionally and it is good. Just the recall of Wednesday has a positive impact. Have you ever noticed how the recall of accomplishing something that you associate with good feelings can actually have a calming and relaxing effect on you?

Here is a simple experiment so you can test out my theory for yourself:

  • Pause for a moment. Recall your favourite day of the week.
  • What are you doing on this day?
  • Who are you with?
  • Where are you?
  • How are you feeling?
  • Now notice your body.
    • Your rate of breathing.
    • Muscular tension
    • Facial muscles
    • Any other significant emotional reactions.

Our ability to invoke positive emotions by the simple recall of a happy memory is a fantastic way to calm and relax ourselves. Therefore, it is a great tool for improving your mental health and sense of well-being. You don’t need to have a favourite day to practice this. Just choose a happy memory or focus on an object that gives you pleasure: your favourite flower, a scented candle, a particular picture or a place you love to visit.

Our memory and imagination are powerful and can alleviate sadness, distress, unhappiness and move us toward feelings of hope and happiness.

I recommend this exercise as a daily practice. You might allocate a certain time each day to revisit these experiences, or you could practice the discipline of acknowledging the things that evoke pleasure and happiness throughout your day. Doing this will not only make you happier in the short term, but it will also improve you mental health and help you go the distance.

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